Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Post-Holiday Random Thoughts

Coming back to work from a long weekend always throws me off. Today is Tuesday, but completely feels like a Monday, which means I am all out of sorts.

We had a lovely holiday weekend. On Saturday, we went over to the Father-In-Law's house for a cookout and swimming. Chickenhead and his cousins always have fun together, and I love seeing watching them play. Not only do they all look alike, but they all have similar mannerisms. They're growing too fast!

We had a bit of a panic moment when Chickenhead was in the pool. We were all sitting by the pool, talking and taking turns keeping an eye on the boys. I suddenly heard a lot of splashing and coughing and turned to see Chickenhead going under. Even now, remembering it, it makes me sick to my stomach. The Husband and I both stood up and were headed towards the pool, but my BIL and his friend dove in to the pool, clothes and all and pulled him over to the side. He was a little shaken, but OK. He swallowed a bit of water and panicked. Every fear I ever had about something bad happening to Chickenhead ran through my head. This is the thing I fear more than anything else in this world; my sweet, wonderful child having his life cut short by some freak accident. Truth be told, I think I was more panicked than he was.

After the Husband and I calmed down and made sure Chickenhead was alright, I told him he had to get right back in to the pool. It was the absolute last thing in the world I wanted to tell him, but I knew if he didn't go back in, he would be afraid of the water, and never want to get in again. So he went to the pool shed and grabbed a pair of floaties and as an added safety precaution, flippers. I don't know what the flippers were supposed to do, exactly, but he wasn't taking any chances. I calmed my nerves with a few marshmallows roasted over the fire pit.

Loony Landlady came through in a lurch, and got the A/C guy out on Sunday (!), and he fixed us right up. Cool air! No humidity in the house! My hair thanks you, Loony Landlady. Frizz-ease can only do so much.

We are still going round and round with my mom and her car. A couple of weeks ago, her BIL came and took her car(long story, his name is on the title along with hers), saying that he didn't think she should be driving. Mom was upset, because she thinks she's fine to drive. They had 'words', and yesterday, my uncle showed up at our house, dropped the keys in my hand and stomped off. I thought Mom would be happy to have her car back (and no, I don't think she should be driving, either), but no, she was not happy at all. I said, 'but you said the other day that you wanted your car so you could go whenever you wanted to'. She looked at me like I had six heads and said that no, what she wanted was for someone to drive her everywhere, whenever she wanted to go. Oh. I'm sorry, Miss Daisy. You want a chauffuer. The Husband and I don't have any problem taking her to the dr or to the store or whatever, but I don't know. She can't seem to accept that she's not able to roam around the Walmarts or Hobby Lobby for hours on end. And she can't understand that I don't shop that way anymore. I make a list, go get what I need to get and get the hell out. I don't really have time for anything other than that.

Plans are coming right along for the big birthday event next month. I'm going to order this edible cake topper for Chickenhead's cake. Awesome! Invites will be mailed by next week; I'm going to finish making them this weekend. He's super-excited, and I love planning this kind of stuff for him. We are actually doing two celebrations, the Guitar Hero party for all the kids, and the next day, a cookout at my father-in-law's house for family. That way, the grown ups in the family don't have to be subjected to a bunch of 9-year olds rocking out to loud music. I'm sure family drama of some sort will ensue over this plan, but I'm sticking to it for now!

Friday, May 22, 2009

And So It Begins...

Well, we've got just a little over a month until Chickenhead's 9th birthday. Nine years? Already? As fast as these nine years have passed, the next nine will fly by too, and then he'll be 18, and I'll be having a breakdown of epic proportions.

But for now, I'm focusing on this birthday. And the party, which will be at the Casa this year. Last year we did the bowling party, which while fun, cost a lot! So we decided to think of something we can do at home, and settled on having a 'Rock Star' party. Chickenhead's friends are going to come over and play Rock Band and/or Guitar Hero, snack on pizza and cupcakes and head on home! No, it's not as simple as that, I do have a few tricks up my sleeve. For starters, I'm designing the invitations to look like concert tickets. I made them in Excel, and I'll be danged if they don't look like real tickets! I think I may save it as a .jpg file though, and take it to Kinko's to get printed on a heavier cardstock than what I can run through my printer at home.

Chickenhead is going to pick 10 or so of his favorite rock songs, and we're going to burn a CD for each guest. I'll then put out stickers and glitter and whatever else I can dig up, and the kids can decorate their CD covers. Then we'll play the video games, with trophies for 'Best Rock Moves', 'Best Air Guitar Skills', etc.

Since I'll have a house full of screaming, rocking kids, I think I'm going to do a separate, much quieter, celebration for family. Just have the grandparents over for a cookout or something. Then when it's all over, I will lock myself in the bedroom with a bottle of wine and try to stop the shaking.

My only issue with the whole party plan is the cake. I love the convience of cupcakes from Costco. I don't have to bake- yay! But, Chickenhead wants a 'Guitar Hero' cake. I'm searching for one of those edible photos that you can put on top of a sheet cake. There are GH ones for sale on ebay, but I don't know how they would ship.
Kansas in June can be hot and miserable, and I think one of those things would be destroyed in transit. So if anyone has any ideas on the cake situation, please, speak up!

Girls Like That

Check out this great song by Christine Kane. It's called 'No Such Thing as Girls Like That', and the lyrics are great!

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

'Specially For Lurker-Girl

New photos up on D-Listed!!

As a side note- This weekend I was being particularly lazy at one point and was watching a movie on Lifetime called 'Speak', starring Kristen Stewart. Who is telling this poor child that she is an actress? All. Of. Her. Lines. Are. Spoken. Without. Emotion. Is she medicated? Is she in a walking coma or something? Anyway, Robert here is pretty, so I'll just try not to think about her!

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Where Did That Week Go?!

I really can't tell you where this past week has gone. I sort of feel like I've been walking around in a fog. Nothing much has gone on this week, it's been pretty non-eventful.

Chickenhead was sick yesterday, and had to stay home from school. He's had a persistent cough, a sore throat, and yesterday a mild fever. I maintained my cool, but the first thought that ran briefly through my head was 'swine fever'. Chickenhead was really mad about staying home, because Friday was the class picnic and I had made two pans of rice crispy treats for the Husband to take up. 'Great', said Chickenhead, 'I dragged in all those bags from the store for nothing!' Gee thanks, Boo! It was sweet Thursday night when we were leaving the grocery store. The Husband told me, 'Chickenhead thinks that we should go to Mr. Goodcents'. At first I said no, we could eat at home, but Chickenhead piped up with, 'you deserve a break, Mom!' Well, the boy did have a point, and so while he and I grabbed sandwiches at Mr. Goodcents, the Husband grabbed some teriakyi from a Hawaiian type place around the corner.

Chickenhead had told me earlier this week that one of his classmates at school was, in his words, 'hacking all over the place'. After I called in his absence, I called the school nurse back to see if strep was going around at the school. I wanted to be prepared for whatever may be coming down the pike. No strep, she said, but there was a girl in Chickenhead's class that had a viral infection. Yep, the hacker. Chickenhead is hacking as I type this, lying in my bed, watching something on the Disney Channel. The fever is gone, though, so he should be able to go back to school on Monday and finish up his last full week of third grade.

My mom finally gave up driving. Last Saturday my uncle came and got her car, and he is going to sell it. I know that it's bothering her a great deal that she can no longer drive, but it's at a point where it's not safe for her or anyone else on the road. Early in the day last Saturday, she left to go run a few errands. She ended up being gone for four hours, and came home exhausted and shaky. I asked her where she went. She went first to the Kinko's by our old place in Mission, then down to Rosedale BBQ, and on the way back home, to the grocery store. As hard as it is for her to walk, I can't imagine how long it took her in the store. The husband and I will do her shopping for her now, or take her if she wants to go.

I had a perfect Mother's Day on Sunday. I got an iPod charging dock, which I love. It was a peaceful, quiet day, and I got to be lazy, one of the things I love most. The rest of the week was the usual work, home, work, home, rinse, repeat. I think I'm suck in a rut! I need a new wardrobe, at the very least, a new hairdo. I need to mix it up a little!

Friday, May 8, 2009

Some Thoughts on Moms

All this week, I've been thinking about moms- my mom, other people's moms, my mom, other moms that are working my nerves, well you get the point. So, here are some random observations on the moms I have encountered this week-

My Mom- How is it possible to love someone and yet dislike them at the same time? I know that she is in her final years with us, yet I get irritated by the way she refuses to accept help, the way she refuses to take care of her health. It's terribly frustrating to see someone who may not have to go through all of this if they would only care.

Other People's Moms- I know people who's moms have destroyed their families through lies, resentment and manipulations. We can love our moms and respect them, but it's not always healthy to keep pursuing the relationship with them if all we end up with is a bruised heart.

PTA Moms- I'm trying really hard to live up to my own promise that I won't tear another woman down, because we all struggle with something as women. But. SOME of the PTA moms at Chickenhead's school are some of the most petty, vindictive, manipulative bunch of vipers I've ever encountered. There are two or three that I would absolutely do anything for at the drop of a hat, the rest of them need to get over themselves.

TV Moms- Kate Gosselin and Michelle Duggar- I seriously don't know how these women do it. There's a lot of snark potential right here with these two, but I won't go there today. Any woman that has that many kids (and a possibly cheating husband, I'm looking at you, Jon) deserves a pat on the back for not running off screaming into the woods.

Mom Friends- All of my gal-pals are moms, and you know what? They are awesome at it! We all fret and worry about our kids, but we are all very supportive of each other as well. I can go to any of my friends and get advice from them and a shoulder to cry on if I need it. Moms make the best friends ever!

So this Sunday, call your mom, and wish her well. Even if she isn't your best friend, without her, where would you be? Happy Mother's Day!

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Here's What I Think - Wisdom From The Casa

First, let me say that I don't profess to be the wisest(most wise?) person around. I have, on occasion, serious lapses in common sense just like everyone else. But as I go through this thing called life(it means forever and that's a mighty long time!), I have come to a few realizations.

1. Life is too short to worry about what everyone else thinks about you. We only get to do this once (unless you believe in reincarnation and then lucky you, you get to do it again!), so try to enjoy each day. Stop worrying about what people will think if you order dessert first or whatever it is you fret about. Stop wasting time with coulda, shoulda and woulda and just be. Allow yourself to be yourself. People will always find something to fault in not just you, but everyone else. We all do it in some way or another.

2. Stop with the 'Nobody likes me' crap, already. I was just talking about this with a friend of mine earlier. I truly believe that the folks who go around with their pity-party hats on, moaning about how the world hates them, nobody loves them, blah, blah, blah, just plain don't like themselves. They're holding on to a lot of self-hatred and criticism. It's a lot easier to keep the pity-party going than to stop and take a look at the things that they don't like about themselves and work to change the things they can. Making a change is hard, facing the fact that we may not be what we define as 'perfect' is a difficult thing to face.

3. You will never be able to please everyone, so stop trying to. Yep, it's true. There will ALWAYS be someone who doesn't like the fact that you did or did not do this or that. Your mom may always be pissed that you didn't marry the person she thought you should have, or maybe your dad will never let you forget that you don't live up to his impossible expectations for you. While we all want to please our family members, our friends, our boss, it's simply impossible to please everyone. In the end, we end up harboring anger and resentment towards others because they demand so much of us. Stop denying yourself happiness, and learn that it's OK to say 'no', and that some people will never be happy no matter what you do. And that's their issue to resolve, not yours.

I'm working in my own life to put all of these truths in to full-time practice. It's not always easy; sometimes to be honest, it's a pain in the ass. But I'm hoping that I'll be a better person for trying!

Oh,yeah, and Happy Cinco DeMayo from the Casa!

Saturday, May 2, 2009


I just got around to watching this video over at The Women's Colony. You just can't help but feel uplifted after watching this. Enjoy!